I've used this one myself, and it works. Each of you tells your side out loud, without interruption. Then you paste both sides into Claude with one prompt. It won't pick a winner. It gives notes to both of you.
Here are two sides of one argument, in each person's own words. [Name 1]'s side comes first, then [Name 2]'s. [If one of you told both sides, add: I told [Name 2]'s side myself, the way I think they would tell it.] Don't pick a winner. Tell us: 1. What each of us wants underneath what we said. 2. What each of us is missing about the other person's side. 3. In one sentence each, what each of us can do to open this conversation again and restart it. [Name 1]'s side: [paste it here] [Name 2]'s side: [paste it here]
Claude won't pick a winner, but it will have notes for both of you. Use the last part, the one sentence each, to restart the conversation. So do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?
This helps you restart a conversation. It isn't a substitute for a counselor.
It can help you restart the conversation. Each of you tells your side out loud, then you paste both sides into Claude with a prompt that tells it not to pick a winner. It names what each of you wants underneath, what each of you is missing, and one sentence each to start talking again. It isn't a substitute for a counselor.
Give Claude both sides in each person's own words and tell it not to pick a winner. Then ask for three things: what each person wants underneath what they said, what each is missing about the other side, and one sentence each to restart the conversation. Put the names in, then paste both sides below the prompt.
Tell their side yourself, the way they would tell it, and say so in the prompt. Claude then gives notes to both sides as usual. If telling their side is painful, that's how you know it's working: you're hearing the argument from where they stand.
Use an incognito chat for the most privacy. In Claude, start a new chat and click the ghost icon. Incognito chats aren't saved to your chat history, aren't added to Claude's memory and aren't used for training, and they're available on every plan, including Free.
Yes, with their agreement. Ask them first, and agree that you'll both read Claude's answer together. Check your company's rules on which AI tools you can use for work, and leave out client names and anything confidential. Tell Claude you both need to keep working together, and ask for a neutral next step you could both agree to.
The bonus gives you a follow-up prompt for once you've talked it through, so the same fight doesn't come back, plus a version of the method for a disagreement with a co-worker.
Run this in the same chat, after the two of you have talked, so Claude still has both sides in front of it.
We used your notes and talked it through. Here's how it went, in my words: [what was said, what landed, what still stings] Based on this and on both sides above: 1. What did we agree on, even if we didn't say it out loud? 2. What's still open between us? 3. One small, specific thing each of us can do this week so this doesn't turn into the same fight again. Don't pick a winner. Keep it short and even-handed, so we can both read it.
Here are two sides of one disagreement at work, in each person's own words. [Name 1]'s side comes first, then [Name 2]'s. We both need to keep working together on [the project or task]. Don't pick a winner. Tell us: 1. What each of us needs underneath what we said, to do our job well. 2. What each of us is missing about the other person's side. 3. In one sentence each, what each of us can do to restart this conversation. 4. A short, neutral summary of the disagreement and a next step, written so we could both agree to it and share it with [our manager or team] if we choose to. [Name 1]'s side: [paste it here] [Name 2]'s side: [paste it here]
Ask them first, and agree that you'll both read Claude's answer together. Check your company's rules on which AI tools you can use for work, and leave out client names and anything confidential.
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